Delayed Ejaculation Solutions

For Men Who Have Difficulty Ejaculating

Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which a man finds it difficult to ejaculate regardless of how long intercourse lasts.

Usually men with delayed ejaculation can come more or less normally during masturbation.

As you can imagine, this can cause some difficulties between a man and his partner.

A woman whose man cannot ejaculate may assume she is not attractive enough

A woman whose man cannot ejaculate may assume she is not attractive enough.

So you have to think that this problem of not being able to ejaculate in a reasonable time frame during intercourse is something about the interaction with the female partner (although it can affect gay men as well).

There are several possible explanations: a man simply hasn’t learned how to be aroused during intercourse with a partner. Sometimes a man has emotional issues which prevent him establishing the degree of intimacy and connection with his partner necessary for full sexual arousal.

In all cases it’s obvious that a man who isn’t able to ejaculate isn’t reaching the point at which his level of sexual arousal would allow him to ejaculate, and it makes sense to suppose this is either because of physiological problem or an emotional issue.

In men who have physical conditions like diabetes, or more specifically diabetic neuropathy, we know these can be a physical cause of the
difficulty a man has in reaching the point of ejaculation.

But for men without such physical conditions, the causes are almost always emotional and psychological. A lot of guys resent this, and blame their ejaculatory dysfunction on penile insensitivity. While I’d accept that a circumcised penis can develop a keratinized glans over a period of time, whether this does have some impact on the level of sensitivity of the man’s cock is another issue.

However, the unavoidable truth is that the majority of cases of delayed ejaculation appear to be emotionally based, and originate in issues with how aroused a man becomes during sexual interaction with his partner.

All these things can inhibit ejaculation

All these things can inhibit ejaculation

The exact nature of the symptoms can help explain what’s going on here: in some cases a man can ejaculate more easily with a different partner. This is a fairly obvious clue that there’s a relationship issue or an intimacy issue with the woman with whom he can’t ejaculate.

Life Long vs Acquired Ejaculation Problems

Sometimes delayed ejaculation comes on later in life unexpectedly – and in these cases you have to assume there is some change of dynamic in the relationship or some change in the man’s psychology which is causing the problem.

(It is worth mentioning, however, that among the physical causes of delayed ejaculation, low testosterone levels might be a suspect – and such a lowering of testosterone can develop in a man who aged over 50, sometimes quite suddenly. It is why a full medical examination is helpful to pin down the cause.)

All of this raises the rather interesting question of how you can overcome delayed ejaculation.

Solutions

Traditionally, delayed ejaculation has been regarded as a slightly problematic condition, one that’s not easy to solve. But that’s not entirely true, because if you have a man and a woman who are willing to cooperate in working together on the relationship issues that might be contributing to the problem, the problem can be generally solved quite quickly and easily.

The difficulty is that in many cases there is a psychological barrier to connection, or true intimacy, between the man and his partner, and it’s sometimes not even helpful to look at this, because the couple are neither interested in nor capable of examining the deeper emotional issues.

In such cases, you may well wonder whether or not delayed ejaculation can be overcome?

Can a man and his partner really enjoy great sex if the man has delayed ejaculation?

Can a man and his partner really enjoy great sex if the man has delayed ejaculation?

I’d say, cautiously, that the answer to this is “yes”. Something which resembles cognitive behavioural therapy – in other words dealing with the symptoms rather than the underlying causes – can help men recover the ability to ejaculate in a timely way during intercourse.

Indeed, originally, one of the treatment methods for delayed ejaculation and was to stimulate the man’s penis very vigorously and at the last minute before ejaculation to insert it into his wife’s vagina, so that he could experience the sensation of ejaculating inside her. Read more about it here. It sounds harsh, and indeed it is, but the strange thing is that in a certain percentage of cases, this technique actually worked!

It was almost as though there was a kind of barrier stopping a man form ejaculating inside the vagina – perhaps vaginal aversion or some similar sexual issue.

Asking the right questions can really help solve this problem

Asking the right questions can really help solve this problem

The experience of overcoming this block to orgasm can be very liberating, and apparently can thereafter empower at least some men to ejaculate normally in the future.

 

It appears that many men required a more subtle and delicate approach, which basically involved re-establishing intimacy and connection with the partner by means of techniques like sensate focus.

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